Sunday, June 1, 2008

How do I help this child?

And she really isn't a child. My niece that is. She is 18. But she is going through what is a life altering event. And living with me. Which I am so extremely thankful for. And stressed about.

And I DON'T KNOW HOW TO HELP HER! Oh, I know all the platitudes and cliches to say. And I know how to hug her and talk to her. And my children are very happy to have her here as well.  
But what do I say when she is crying because she lost a key charm that her mom gave her. Something of great sentimental value.  Because that is what happened last night.  And I was a complete and total loss.  I mean, I know I would be hysterical. And I am a grown 39 woman and I know that I would be that way about losing something.  My sister's things give her great comfort.  And events like this are going to happen. I wish I could find it for her. My heart breaks for her.  Her mom was such a big part of her life and I know that the hole I feel feels as it it won't heal, so how must she feel.  

All I can do is just hug her and tell her that her memories are with her, and that it's ok.  What else could I say or do.


1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Girl, you are doing exactly the right thing. Just keep being there for her, as time passes she will begin to heal - and so will you.

As for the keychain, just keep looking, hopefully it will turn up in the least likely place.

(((hugs for you both)))